Our Scratch

Thank God

YOU give me chance to meet

Someone in this hopeful place

At glance I have a lot of share

Leads to the beautiful pond full of care

Together rise up joy and dare

Fill the days with meaningful laugh and smile

            I find the shining eyes seem to show

            Long story of great heart hiding sorrows

            It is hard when they come and grow

            Now trying and praying to let them go

Your strength seems somehow

Will bring to the bright days of tomorrow

May God direct and strengthen your heart now

For every single step to go

                           July 2007

                           Tomy RA Pratomo

                                                no other

There’s no other man

That can touch my heart

But you

Then …

No matter and whoever you are

I will always love you

Unconditionally

Cause …

You are the one who’s raised me up

From the sorrow that long I’ve had

                   Till …

I can see the light

From the tunnel of the darkness

The light that will bring us

To the happiness

July 5, 2007

too far away

Am I going too far away?

Back to your track, dearest one!

Face the challenge alone,

As usual…

                   Never trust others to help you

Or else…

They will humiliate you

Only trust ALLAH

In every single step you make

In every single breath you take

                   Then…

Let’s pray, pray and pray

You can do the best for your life

Only with the guidance of ALLAH 

                                                                                    July 7, 2007

                                                                       

June the 17^th!

It’s been years since we first met

by then we’ve  both  been…

getting closer n closer

Our smiles are captured in every wonderful moment

Our prays are sparkled in very quite n still nights  

Our names are engraved in our deepest n purest heart

All these miracles

Have always been inspiring us

in facing our hardest n most painful times

Have always been leading us to  find ways n solutions

Our life has totally changed since then

Greatest thanks to ALLAH

who has granted these marvelous blessings for us

Happy anniversary for  both of us!

Heart #2:Ultimate

Assalamu’alaikum wRwB

It’s really hard to start but without communicating this, I won’t be able to face this life peacefully in the years to come and I’m afraid I’m wrong because I neglect all the miracle that ALLAH has already granted to us, and do not try hard to pursue the right that we should achieve for the rest of our lives.

We’ve been close friend since then and we’ve also discussed so many things since the beginning of  our friendship began. Hopefully, we’ve already known each other very well, our basic principle, our way of life, etc. But actually  I don’t know the feeling of others and the firmness of others in promoting the truth itself (including you in this case).

I know since the beginning,  I’ve talked a lot about my world, and I feel you’ve respected and (hopefully trusted) me, my kids and all my related world so much, but in reverse you never talk too much about yours, especially your beloved ones. This makes me really eager to know but never be satisfied, I just can create my own description about you and your world. But, lately, because of ALLAH guidance everything is getting clearer and clearer everyday.

Since the beginning I initiated this relationships, I and everyone that I know believe that you are a good man, and nobody tries to persuade me to end this relationship, everyone always supports me to continue the relationship, with, of course, I should maintain and maintain my patience, but why? I still don’t understand until now.

And since the beginning of this relationship, even though I don’t know who you are, but there are courage in me to always be prepare to any unpredictable happenings in this relationship, so I’ve already set everything – dare to be happy, be sad, even worst than that, cause I believe it won’t be easy to have a relationship like this, both of course have our own traumatic experiences as well as sweet memories and achievements happening in our past times, that both should  care, handle, and appreciate.

The ta’aruf has been occurred within the six month period, then, I know that you have already one, but actually it doesn’t a matter for me because I’m not against polygamous marriage, but  then I’ve been shown her sms, she considered that the relationship could endanger hers, but she actually was wrong at that time, because I never thought to do such irresponsible acts, like hurting others, overruling or even pulling you away from your beloved ones.  But by then,  I have tried hard to turn away from you, but again I’m failed, until now my love to you has been greater and greater each day.

I’m really confused actually, because, for me,  my faith and my belief, after the ta’aruf stage there won’t be any other endeavor except getting married. But, I should face the real confusing life, because I don’t know in what position I should stand. Should I ask you to marry me? But when  I think about this,  I will suddenly cry harder and harder, because I really don’t want to be in that position, cause I’m afraid I will hurt the ones that you really love. But, I myself have even been trying hard to be away from you and no to contact you but I’m failed and failed again.

It is good or not in your opinion, your culture or even your religion, besides,  I also feel ashamed actually to launch this idea to beg you to marry me, but I truly believe that this polygamous marriage can solve all the social problems. I promise I won’t change everything in your life, I just want to pursue and complete both of our family happiness.

You have to promise to yourself that through marrying me you won’t leave the ones you love but you’ll love them more. I just want to feel ease because I always feel inconvenient and against ALLAH rules because of my faith to HIM if I should contact  you after this ta’aruf stage accomplished. After that, you needn’t have to visit us if you do not want  and do not have time too, but contact us regularly that is enough for us.

Regardless to my own pride that has been fell apart, but only for begging and asking  the blessing from ALLAH the Almighty, with BISMILLAAHIRROHMAANIRROHIM I then send this email to you. Please forgive me, if it’s been too impolite, too vulgar, and  too strightforward for you….

Wa’laikumsalamu’alaikum wRwB…

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Heart #1: August the Eight

Dearest …

It is not easy to write down what happened to me and the reasons of what I did,  since it sounds so crazy. This is the story of my own version (yours may be quite different).

We know at the beginning everything went on as any other events, we introduced each other and attended classes, session by session, our seats were usually a little bit far (it was probably 3 or 4 times only we sat side by side in class). Nothing’s special. Time went on, we talked as others did. Then you told me your problem (I was surprised why you talked to me) and we discussed it together at any place and any time we had. Do you remember when we had a Long discussion  until there was no one but us? It seemed I also enjoyed it, even you said I was your doctor, though I did not understand really because I just told you what was in my mind. Then slowly but surely something grew in my heart that made me so close to you.

I tried hard not to believe that it happened to me and I did all of those stupid and silly behaviors simply because of self denying my own feeling. In front of our friends I made impression that we had no specific emotional relationship. Sometimes I could not help to laugh at myself why I did it. But the fact was that it did not work at all and you know it, I always hoped to meet you soon every day. So I’m very sorry for confusing you for a long time or perhaps making you unhappy, sad, and even hurting you. Once again, I’m really sorry for my stupid behaviors and I did not mean it actually.

When the rumor about us was blown up, crossing in my mind an idea to show off, but I could not do it, I even decided to stay away since I was afraid of making the situation getting worse. Again, I behaved stupid things though deep in my heart it was different. I hoped you got no more trouble because of me, but you thought other way around. Sometimes I also thought I was your trouble maker, made you unhappy, sad, and even crying. That guilty feeling often drove me to forget my feeling, but once again it totally failed. We got closer and closer. Is it funny or romantic?

As you know that I committed to myself to help you finishing the program and it was the main purpose for that time and I am Very proud of your successful achievement to be number one in our class. I appreciate your hard work and congratulation. It was not easy to get that position but you have proved it and it also proves that you are strong woman and I am sure you will have a good future life with your three inspiring children with you. I think you are not only tough, but you are great Mom. You must trust yourself and your confidence that you can face the world with smile and optimistic.

The dark will End by the coming of sunlight that shines on your heart.

Anyway, I am happy when You and the children are happy and enjoy the life peacefully and I always support whatever you do and whatever you decide for the sake of your future, joy and happiness.
Last but not least, I also thank you for everything since being with you I am so … glad and happy, it’s wonderful moment in my life like the lyric of the song “all my life I will feel it” though I deny it at the beginning (he…he…he…).

Please give a chance to meet them someday, I mean it and it is a must I think.
This is  to explain what I did and I feel now…

Best Wishes,

TRAP

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3ple N 4 Smart Kids

The concept of Triple N – Nature, Nurture, and Nutrition should well be understood thoroughly by young parents, teachers of kindergartens and teachers of primary schools, in promoting smart kids especially for preparing readiness for facing challenges in this globalization technology era. 

In the Nature concept, to have kids with genetically excellent, the parents-to-be should be equipped by the knowledge of wellness long before they commit to get married. When a mom starts planning for pregnancy, she should be ready both physically and psychologically, to have a genetically good quality of a baby. 

In the Nurture concept, the parent as the persons that the baby gets acquainted first, should also be equipped by the knowledge of good parenting, in order to have an intellectually and socially good quality of a baby. Promoting good interaction can be done since the pregnancy through introducing first communication, both of the parent should always communicate with the baby during the pregnancy, and try to introduce the baby with classical music or beautiful rhythm,  of course,  the interaction should be continued when the baby was born to this world, through maintaining interaction and introducing every new environment, as both are believed to be effective for increasing both intellectual an emotional intelligences. 

In the nutrition concept, there are at least two steps that the parent-to-be should prepare for, the first, in pre-maternal stage: since the beginning of pregnancy, the parent should consume high quality of food, do virtue acts, and close to the All Mighty God as our Creator, as both physically and spiritually nutrition for the parent and baby; and the second, post maternal stage: give the baby breast milk as their only first best nutrition, in order to develop the baby emotionally, at the initial stage of the baby’s life. Continue introducing varieties of food, when the baby grows up. Through promoting good qualities of the Triple N, we hope that all the babies will grow up to be smart kids and  are ready enough to face the hardships as well as challenges in their future, including in this globalization technology era.

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10 Wasiat Hasan Al-Bana

“Dirikanlah shalat dengan segera manakala telah tendengar adzan, sepanjang tidak ada udzur bagimu”

“Bacalah Al-Qur’an, tela’ah dan dengarkanlah pembahasan ilmu. Berdzikirlah kepada ALLAH. Dan jangan lewatkan waktu walaupun sedikit hanya untuk melakukan sesuatu yang tidak berguna”

“Bersungguh-sungguh berbicara bahasa Arab dengan fasih, sebab itu adalah syiar Islam”

“Janganlah memperbanyak perdebatan dalam segala hal, sebab berperang mulut sama sekali tidak mendatangkan kebaikan”

“Janganlah memperbanyak tertawa, sebab hati yang berhubungan dengan ALLAH selalu tenang dan tentram”

“Jangan bergurau, karena ummat Islam yang berjuang tidak mengetahui, kecuali sungguh-sungguh”

“Jangan mengeraskan suara melebihi kebutuhan orang yang mendengarkan, sebab itu suatu kebodohan yang menyakitkan”

“Jauhilah mengumpat orang lain, panggil memanggil dengan gelar-gelar yang buruk, dan jangan berbicara kecuali yang baik”

“Berkenalanlah dengan saudaramu sesam muslim di mana saja berjumpa, sekalipun dia tidak mengajak berkenalan, sebab dasar seruan Islam adalah cinta kasih dan kenal mengenal”

“Kewajiban-kewajiban hidup lebih banyak daripada waktu yang tersedia, maka berilah pertolongan orang lain untuk memanfaatkan waktu. Manakala kamu mempunyai kepentingan, maka segera lakukan”

(1st Launched @wordpress dated June 6, 2012)

Akhlaqul Karimah

Based on:  QS. Al Mu’minun 23:1-11

Ayah 1:
Successful indeed o the believers;

Ayah 2:
Those who offer their salat (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness

Ayah 3:
And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that  Allah has forbidden

Ayah 4:
And those who pay the zakat

Ayah 5:
And those who guard their chastity (i.e private parts, from illegal sexual acts.)

Ayah 6:
Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hand possess, for then, they are free from blame

Ayah 7:
But who ever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressor

Ayah 8:
Those who are faithfully true to their amanat (all the duties which Allah as ordained, honesty, moral responsibility, and trust) and to their covenants

Ayah 9:
And those who strictly guard their (five compulsory congregational) shalawat (prayers) (at their fixed stated hours)

Ayah 10:
These are indeed the inheritors

Ayah 11:
Who shall inherit the firdaus(paradise. they shall dwell therein forever.)

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Esensi Akhlaq Islami

I. Pedoman Pergaulan antara Laki-laki dan Wanita yang bukan Mahram (QS. 24 AnNur: 30-31):

Aku berlindung dari segala godaan syaithan yang terkutuk

30. Katakanlah kepada orang laki-laki yang Beriman, “Hendaklah mereka menahan pandangannya, dan memelihara kemaluannya; yang demikian itu lebih suci bagi mereka, sesungguhnya ALLAH Maha Mengetahui apa yang mereka perbuat”.

31. Katakanlah kepada wanita yang Beriman, “Hendaklah mereka menahan pandangannya, dan memelihara kemaluannya, dan janganlah mereka, menampakkan perhiasannya (auratnya), kecuali yang biasa tampak daripadanya. Dan hendaklah mereka menutupkan kain kudung ke dadanya, dan janganlah menampakkannya, kecuali kepada suami mereka, ayah mereka, atau ayah suami mereka, atau putra-putra mereka, atau putra-putra suami mereka, atau saudara-saudara laki-laki mereka, atau putra saudara laki-laki mereka, atau putra-putra saudara perempuan mereka, atau wamita-wanita Islam, atau budak-budak yang mereka miliki, atau pelayan-pelayan laki-laki yang tidak mempunyai keinginan (terhadap wanita), atau anak-anak yang belum mengerti tentang aurat wanita. Dan janganlah mereka memukulkan kakinya, agar diketahui perhiasan yang mereka sembunyikan. Dan bertobatlah kamu sekalian kepada ALLAH, hai orang-orang yang beriman supaya kamu beruntung.

II. Tata Krama Seputar Ibadah dan Pergaulan (QS. 17 Al Isra: 21 -39):

Aku berlindung dari segala godaan syaithan yang terkutuk

21. Perhatikanlah bagaimana Kami lebihkan sebagian mereka atas sebagaian (yang lain). Dan pasti kehidupan akhirat lebih tinggi tingkatnya dan lebih besar keutamaannya.

22. Janganlah kamu adakan tuhan yang lain di samping ALLAH, agar kamu tidak menjadi tercela dan tidak ditinggalkan (ALLAH).

23. Dan Tuhan-mu telah Memerintahkan supaya kamu jangan menyembah selain Dia dan hendaklah kamu berbuat baik kepada ibu bapakmu dengan sebaik-baiknya. Jika salah seorang di antara keduanya, atau kedua-duanya sampai berumur lanjut dalam pemeliharaanmu, maka janganlah sekali-kali kamu mengatakan ‘ah’ dan janganlah kamu membentak mereka dan ucapkanlah kepada mereka perkataan yang mulia.

24. Dan rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap mereka berdua dengan penuh kesayangan dan ucapkanlah “Wahai Tuhanku, kasihilah mereka keduanya, sebagaimana mereka berdua telah mendidik aku waktu kecil.

25. Tuhan-mu lebih Mengetahui apa yang ada dalam hatimu; jika kamu orang-orang yang baik, maka sesungguhnya Dia Maha Pengampun bagi orang-orang yang bertobat.

26. Dan berikanlah (rizqimu) kepada keluarga-keluarga yang dekat akan haknya, kepada orang miskin dan orang yang dalam perjalanan; dan janganlah kamu mengahambur-hamburkan hartamu secara boros.

27. Sesungguhnya pemboros-pemboros itu adalah saudara syaithan, dan syaithan itu adalah sangat ingkar kepada Tuhan-nya.

28. Dan jika kamu berpaling dari mereka untuk memperoleh Rahmat dari Tuhan-Mu yang kamu harapkan, maka katakanlah kepada mereka (keluarga terdekat, fakir miskin, dan ibnu sabil) ucapan yang pantas.

29. Dan janganlah kamu jadikan tanganmu terbelenggu pada lehermu, dan janganlah kamu terlalu mengulurkannya, karena itu kamu menjadi tercela dan menyesal.

30. Sesungguhnya Tuhan-mu melapangkan rizqi kepada siapa yang Dia Kehendaki dan Menyempitkannya.

31. Dan janganlah kamu membunuh anak-anakmu, karena takut kemiskinan. Kami-lah yang akan memberi rizqi kepada mereka dan juga kepadamu. Sesungguhnya membunuh mereka adalah suatu dosa yang besar.

32. Dan janganlah kamu mendekati zina; sesungguhnya zina itu adalah suatu perbuatan keji. Dan suatu jalan yang buruk.

33. Dan janganlah kamu membunuh jiwa yang diharamkan ALLAH (membunuhnya), melainkan dengan suatu alasan yang benar. Dan barang siapa yang dibunuh secara zalim, maka sesungguhnya Kami telah Memberi Kekuasaan kepada ahli warisnya, tetapi janganlah ahli waris itu melampaui batas dalam membunuh, sesungguhnya ia adalah orang yang mendapat pertolongan.

34. Dan janganlah kamu mendekati harta anak yatim, kecuali dengan cara yang lebih baik (bermanfa’at) sampai ia dewasa dan penuhilah janji; sesungguhnya janji itu pasti diminta pertanggungjawabannya.

35. Dan sempurnakanlah takaran apabila kamu menakar, dan timbanglah dengan neraca yang benar. Itulah yang lebih utama (bagimu) dan lebih baik akibatnya.

36. Dan janganlah kamu mengikuti apa yang kamu tidak mempunyai pengetahuan tentangnya. Sesungguhnya pendengaran, penglihatan, dan hati, semuanya itu akan dimintapertanggungjawabannya.

37. Dan janganlah kamu berjalan di muka bumi ini dengan sombong, karena sesungguhnya kamu sekali-kali tidak dapat menembus bumi, dan sekali-kali kamu tidak akan sampai setinggi gunung.

38. Semua itu kejahatannya amat dibenci di sisi Tuhan-mu.

39. Itulah sebagian Hikmah yang Diwahyukan Tuhan kepadamu. Dan janganlah kamu mengadakan tuhan yang lain di samping ALLAH, yang menyebabkan kamu dilemparkan ke dalam neraka dalam keadaan tercela dan dijauhkan (dari Rahmat ALLAH).

III. Nasihat Luqman kepada Anaknya (QS. 31 LUQMAN: 12-19):

Aku berlindung dari segala godaan syaithan yang terkutuk

12. Dan sesungguhnya telah kami berikan Hikmat kepada Luqman, yaitu: “Bersyukurlah kepada ALLAH, dan barang siapa yang bersyukur (kepada ALLAH) maka sesungguhnya ia bersyukur untuk dirinya sendiri, dan barang siapa yang tidak bersyukur, maka sesungguhnya ALLAH Maha Kaya lagi Maha Terpuji”.

13. Dan ingatlah ketika Luqman berkata pada anaknya, di waktu dia memberi pelajaran kepadanya: “Hai anakku, janganlah kamu mempersekutukan ALLAH, sesunggunya mempersekutukan (ALLAH) adalah benar-benar kezaliman yang besar.

14. Dan Kami perintahkan kepada manusia (berbuat baik) kepada dua orang ibu bapaknya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dalam keadaan lemah yang bertambah-tambah, dan menyapihnya dalam dua tahun. Bersyukurlah kepada-KU, dan kedua orang ibu bapakmu, hanya kepada Ku lah kamu kembali.

15. Dan jika keduanya memaksamu untuk mempersekutukan dengan AKU sesuatu yang tidak ada pengetahuanmu tentang itu, maka janganlah kamu mengikuti keduanya, dan pergaulilah keduanya di dunia dengan baik, dan ikutilah jalan orang yang kembali kepada-KU, kemudian hanya kepadap-KU lah kembalimu, maka kuberitakan kepadamu apa yang telah kamu kerjakan.

16. Luqman berkata: “Hai anakku, sesungguhnya jika ada (sesuatu perbuatan) seberat biji sawi, dan berada dalam batu atau di langit atau di dalam bumi, niscaya ALLAH akan Mendatangkannya (Membalasinya). Sesungguhnya ALLAH Maha Halus lagi Maha Mengetahui”.

17. “Hai anakku, dirikanlah shalat, dan suruhlah manusia mengerjakan yang baik dan cegahlah mereka dari perbuatan mungkar, dan bershabarlah terhadap apa yang menimpa kamu. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu termasuk hal-hal yang diwajibkan (oleh ALLAH)”.

18. “Dan janganlah kamu memalingkan mukamu dari manusia (karena sombong) dan janganlah kamu berjalan di muka bumi dengan angkuh. Sesungguhnya ALLAH tidak Menyukai orang-orang yang sombong lagi membanggakan diri”

19. “Dan sederhanakanlah kamu dalam berjalan dan lunakkanlah suaramu, sesungguhnya seburuk-buruknya suara adalah suara keledai”

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